A few weeks ago I broke my ankle in two places by falling off a hoverboard. I’ve since had an operation where they inserted metal plates and screws to hold the bones together and now I have a fun 6 weeks of ‘non weight bearing’, stuck on the sofa.
I have already seen some real challenges this is posing to recovery. Simply being entirely reliant on my wife for food, drink and anything else has put a huge amount of stress on us as a couple. This coincides at a time where she’s going back to work, I’m about to change jobs, we’re having a load of building work about to start and our daughter is starting nursery. There’s a lot going on and I can’t help at all around the house – my wife is having to do everything.
We’ve had some bad days. I’ve got stressed because I’m in pain and can’t do anything. My wife gets stressed because she has to be responsible for everything. We’re both anxious about how we feel about our daughter going into nursery, to the point where we may make some serious decisions about our employment to change that. However, we are talking through the challenges and doing our best to stay positive and motivated and help each other out.
And the result? Well, I’ve acted out once (well a few times, in one day, as is the way). I’m doing my best in terms of sobriety since the illness-fuelled December, and this is really a spanner in the works.
Being sofa-bound and home-alone for the next 4 weeks is going to be a serious challenge. I will get frustrated, bored and lonely, and all these things are triggers. So I’m going to work on a daily routine, including journalling, reading my pillars, general reading, doing some work, having a break, playing some music etc, to ensure I stay occupied and interested.
If I can make it through the next 4 weeks sober, that’ll be a great achievement.