A broken ankle and a lot of stress

A few weeks ago I broke my ankle in two places by falling off a hoverboard. I’ve since had an operation where they inserted metal plates and screws to hold the bones together and now I have a fun 6 weeks of ‘non weight bearing’, stuck on the sofa.

I have already seen some real challenges this is posing to recovery. Simply being entirely reliant on my wife for food, drink and anything else has put a huge amount of stress on us as a couple. This coincides at a time where she’s going back to work, I’m about to change jobs, we’re having a load of building work about to start and our daughter is starting nursery. There’s a lot going on and I can’t help at all around the house – my wife is having to do everything.

We’ve had some bad days. I’ve got stressed because I’m in pain and can’t do anything. My wife gets stressed because she has to be responsible for everything. We’re both anxious about how we feel about our daughter going into nursery, to the point where we may make some serious decisions about our employment to change that. However, we are talking through the challenges and doing our best to stay positive and motivated and help each other out.

And the result? Well, I’ve acted out once (well a few times, in one day, as is the way). I’m doing my best in terms of sobriety since the illness-fuelled December, and this is really a spanner in the works.

Being sofa-bound and home-alone for the next 4 weeks is going to be a serious challenge. I will get frustrated, bored and lonely, and all these things are triggers. So I’m going to work on a daily routine, including journalling, reading my pillars, general reading, doing some work, having a break, playing some music etc, to ensure I stay occupied and interested.

If I can make it through the next 4 weeks sober, that’ll be a great achievement.

7 thoughts on “A broken ankle and a lot of stress

  1. I broke my ankle and had 7 screws and a plate 4 days before Christmas. I used an office chair and rolled on the main floor to get to where I needed to go. I went back to work 30 hours a week giving physical therapy to others and actually took a week long vacation to Mexico while NWB. So, what I’m trying to say is where there’s a will there’s a way. Surprise her and do the laundry or fold it. Make the bed. Stand and prop your knee in a chair and cook dinner. You need not lay on the couch- you could get blood clots.

    1. Very impressive! I can’t quite see how I could do that but I don’t deny it’s possible – I have a friend who was equally as productive as you. I will try to bear it mind and push myself to do a bit more. P.S. I’m taking blood-thinning injections to avoid clotting so fingers crossed I’ll be ok!

  2. It’s all in the mind! This was back in December 2009. Now I run 3.1 miles several times a week without pain !! Good luck in your recovery- in all ways

  3. Hello,

    This is a first for me, responding to someone in regards to this issue, however I came across your blog a few days ago, while searching for info to assist my husband (Tim) (and MYSELF) in dealing with his same issues. He does not feel right with the mainstream “group” either and we have been trying to work to heal “together” because his issues cause me issues as well that need to be healed. Not sure how your wife handles things, but I have found that there is no “group” for us and I had often suffered alone.

    So, today my hubby has come across what seems to be a really great book “Trust the Process” “how to enhance recovery and prevent relapse”. We have read more books and info than I care to recall. This one seems to have some very helpful, insightful info from this therapist (who is an addiction specialist) in regards to our understanding of recovery and relapse. Though it is mainly dealing with chemical dependency, as we know, just insert your “thing” in place of “alcohol” or whatever.

    When he started reading some of the book to me tonight, your blog came to mind, and I just thought that I should share it with you in case it could bring you some forward movement as well. I think you are very savvy in your understanding of addiction (so is Tim) and I think that sometimes that makes it worse. Very Frustrating.

    Anyway, thank you for having the courage to put this “out there” and feel free to contact my husband Tim and also, if your wife needs someone to talk to, she can contact me (Michelle) as well, just a thought.

    We will be praying for your family.

    1. Hi Michelle, thanks so much for your comment it is really thoughtful. It is great to hear how supportive you are of your husband in this process. I’ve just ordered the book and look forward to reading it. I hadn’t thought about maybe being savvy to addiction can make it harder – I’m not sure what I think but certainly being savvy hasn’t automatically meant I’m better at recovery – willpower, life challenges etc remain just as hard as they always were, I just understand the triggers and the theoretical solutions a bit better, I suppose.

      I seem to do better in recovery when I can devote time and energy to it, which I haven’t really been able to do since a year ago when our daughter was born. Then we moved house/town and jobs and a load of other changes and it is hard to prioritise recovery, but I need to find a way to fit it in.

      Thanks again for your words of support, they are very much appreciated 🙂

  4. So it’s been 2 months without an update from you. My guess is your ankle is healed but you’re still jerking off to Internet porn. I’d love to be wrong so please prove me otherwise!

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