Checking In – Unpacking A Bad Period

Things aren't going to well and without anyone to actually talk to about it, I thought maybe writing about it here might help, so here goes. My porn addiction tends to go in cycles. When I'm doing well, I'm focusing on being present in my life, being attentive to my wife and kids, being productive, … Continue reading Checking In – Unpacking A Bad Period

A Powerful Meeting

I'm getting settled in to the weekly SAA meeting I go to now in my new home town. It has a nice vibe to it, everyone is really friendly, open, honest and supportive. I even met up with some of the members beforehand for a coffee. Tonight's meeting was powerful, and has given me some things to think about. … Continue reading A Powerful Meeting

A pretty detailed account of my (porn) life

Today, while browsing r/NoFap, I came across a video called "Share Your Story" by a guy (supposedly) called Noah Church. Watching his other videos, he's an articulate and charismatic ex-porn addict who is spreading the word about addiction and providing help to those still struggling with it (here's probably his best video - a 20 minute … Continue reading A pretty detailed account of my (porn) life

Trauma, Self-Esteem and a Hypothesis

There are two aspects to beating porn addiction - the physical process of abstinence and the methods of doing so, and understanding the psychological background and context that has led to the addiction. They say that to really explore the latter, you need to achieve the former. This post is about the latter. Ever since reading Paula Hall's … Continue reading Trauma, Self-Esteem and a Hypothesis

Taking the next step – professional help

One common theme amongst most people who have made significant progress in their porn addiction recovery, especially from those who have beaten it, is that they have all had professional help. So acknowledging that self-help, while beneficial, was not delivering the results for me that I wanted, I contacted a professional sex/porn addiction psycho-therapist, and today … Continue reading Taking the next step – professional help