One man's steps into recovery from porn addiction
Something has been on mind lately, and that is the relationship between acting out and acting "in". "In" being doing things that I actually enjoy and are rewarding/productive/fulfilling. I've really noticed that when I act out, I'm very often doing it in the knowledge that there is something I'd rather be doing, but something compels me to watch … Continue reading Giving Myself Permission To Do Things I Enjoy
Getting started with the Steps I recently attempted to commit to doing the 12 steps of Sex Addicts Anonymous. For the last 2 years I have attended SAA meetings and met members, to gain benefit from talking about addiction with like-minded people, but I've never actually done the steps. After a month of unsuccessfully re-trying … Continue reading Struggling with the religion of SAA
I'm getting settled in to the weekly SAA meeting I go to now in my new home town. It has a nice vibe to it, everyone is really friendly, open, honest and supportive. I even met up with some of the members beforehand for a coffee. Tonight's meeting was powerful, and has given me some things to think about. … Continue reading A Powerful Meeting
This week UK politician Keith Vaz was outed by a tabloid newspaper for paying two men for sex, and offering to pay for their drugs and take some as well. The paper had met the escorts in advance and encouraged them to film the meeting, and gave them advice on how to do it, obviously in … Continue reading Thoughts on Keith Vaz, by a sex addict
The other night I acted out, but this post isn't about that. I became aware of something... a feeling... while and after the fact, that I don't think I had really acknowledged before. What I felt was, for lack of a better word... friendship. I realised I have feelings for these porn stars. Not in the … Continue reading Acknowledging my relationship with porn / saying farewell
Its that time of the month again! Into a new month so time to reflect on the month before. Here's my updated sobriety chart: July was basically the same as June. I had one long period of sobriety (11 days), and then after a slip the rest of the month was failing to get back to … Continue reading July Retrospective: The Elusive Wagon
...I've come to deal with you again. Its amazing how quickly I can go from being positive, connected and energised to acting out, and then dealing with the resulting bout of being tired, disconnected and unmotivated. I mean really, it can happen in the space of a few seconds. I can genuinely be feeling great, then … Continue reading Hello tiredness and stress my old friend
Sex Addiction, according to Wikipedia, has been around since the 1970s, but porn addiction (specifically internet porn) is a far newer concept, not least because of the relatively recent development of technology to make online porn so available and therefore powerful in its addictiveness. During my early days of therapy for my porn addiction, I was quickly and eagerly … Continue reading Porn Addiction vs Sex Addiction
It's been over 2 months since I last posted, and its time to check in. In the last few months, I broke my ankle, moved house, changed job, my wife changed her job, our daughter started nursery, and we had decorators in for two months. Its been pretty manic to say the least. I previously … Continue reading Normality resuming, what about sobriety?
One of the biggest themes for me in my recovery, and in fact my life, is human connection. All the work I do on recovery and all the things I think about and have to deal with, all come down to it. It is the inescapable truth that lays the foundations for everything else. To many … Continue reading The opposite of addiction is human connection
