One man's steps into recovery from porn addiction
I'm in the process of locking down my ability to access porn, both at home and away, on all my devices. Each time I think I've cracked it, I find another loophole, but I'm getting closed to having a holistic block. See my last post for my current setup, but I've since found another workaround and so … Continue reading Enable Adult Content Block on iOS 7
When I first started taking my porn addiction seriously, one of my first steps was to implement a content block in my household, to prevent me from being able to watch porn, even if I wanted to. I wrote about the various technical steps in doing this in this post. The basic premise was to apply content blocking … Continue reading Blocking porn in my house: how to do it right
Today I had my second private therapy session with a sex addiction counsellor. I had decided to go down the counselling route for two reasons: 1) self-motivation wasn't working and 2) I started to appreciate that to fix my addiction, I'd have to really understand the underlying psychological reasons for it; something I would likely not … Continue reading Private therapy session #2 take-away
One side-effect of porn that is widely discussed is that it can interfere with your enjoyment of real sex. Generally speaking, this, fortunately, has not been a problem for me. My sex drive has always been really high and so I always enjoy sex with my girlfriend, and porn rarely enters my mind during it. … Continue reading The porn fix vs the sex fix
This weekend my girlfriend is out of town. I was faced with the prospect of two days on my own, obviously with the goal of not watching porn. This is my first major test. To provide some context, in a similar situation in the past I would have earmarked the entire weekend for porn watching. … Continue reading Rediscovering myself
Similar to my previous post of Gary Wilson's excellent TED talk, here's an animated explanation of the same scientific view of the process within our brains that makes porn so addictive. Not only was learning this the single most influential factor in my newly-found drive to quit porn, remembering it when I get the urges … Continue reading Animated explanation on the science of porn
Day 8.Here's what I've noticed:Generally, as long as I'm occupied, I don't suffer too many withdrawal symptoms.However, very often I get an impressively strong urge in my loins. It is almost a physical pain in my bladder area, and all I can think about is how watching porn and relieving myself is the only cure. … Continue reading Status Update: Week 2
This video has been doing the rounds lately and for good reason. It is a TED talk by Gary Wilson, founder of http://www.yourbrainonporn.com (the site which pretty much is responsible for my current drive to quit porn). In it he discusses the various scientific, behavioural and physical changes that occur in a porn addict, as … Continue reading The Science Behind Porn Addiction
Saw this infographic posted on facebook today: While related to an entirely different vice/addiction (smoking), which has very different and partly irreversible physical side-effects, it was interesting to see the timescale that the recovery period was being framed in. Recovery from an addiction, be it physical, habitual or mental recovery, can take a very long … Continue reading Time
I am addicted to porn. They say that the hardest part of beating an addiction is admitting you have one, but for me I have always known deep-down that my porn usage is out of control, excessive and destructive, and so this for me has been the easy bit. The hard bit is actually quitting. … Continue reading The Beginning of the End (in a good way)
