Today, while browsing r/NoFap, I came across a video called "Share Your Story" by a guy (supposedly) called Noah Church. Watching his other videos, he's an articulate and charismatic ex-porn addict who is spreading the word about addiction and providing help to those still struggling with it (here's probably his best video - a 20 minute … Continue reading A pretty detailed account of my (porn) life
Tag: psychology
Private therapy session #2 take-away
Today I had my second private therapy session with a sex addiction counsellor. I had decided to go down the counselling route for two reasons: 1) self-motivation wasn't working and 2) I started to appreciate that to fix my addiction, I'd have to really understand the underlying psychological reasons for it; something I would likely not … Continue reading Private therapy session #2 take-away
Taking the next step – professional help
One common theme amongst most people who have made significant progress in their porn addiction recovery, especially from those who have beaten it, is that they have all had professional help. So acknowledging that self-help, while beneficial, was not delivering the results for me that I wanted, I contacted a professional sex/porn addiction psycho-therapist, and today … Continue reading Taking the next step – professional help
The porn fix vs the sex fix
One side-effect of porn that is widely discussed is that it can interfere with your enjoyment of real sex. Generally speaking, this, fortunately, has not been a problem for me. My sex drive has always been really high and so I always enjoy sex with my girlfriend, and porn rarely enters my mind during it. … Continue reading The porn fix vs the sex fix
Animated explanation on the science of porn
Similar to my previous post of Gary Wilson's excellent TED talk, here's an animated explanation of the same scientific view of the process within our brains that makes porn so addictive. Not only was learning this the single most influential factor in my newly-found drive to quit porn, remembering it when I get the urges … Continue reading Animated explanation on the science of porn
Status Update: Week 2
Day 8.Here's what I've noticed:Generally, as long as I'm occupied, I don't suffer too many withdrawal symptoms.However, very often I get an impressively strong urge in my loins. It is almost a physical pain in my bladder area, and all I can think about is how watching porn and relieving myself is the only cure. … Continue reading Status Update: Week 2
The Science Behind Porn Addiction
This video has been doing the rounds lately and for good reason. It is a TED talk by Gary Wilson, founder of http://www.yourbrainonporn.com (the site which pretty much is responsible for my current drive to quit porn). In it he discusses the various scientific, behavioural and physical changes that occur in a porn addict, as … Continue reading The Science Behind Porn Addiction
Time
Saw this infographic posted on facebook today: While related to an entirely different vice/addiction (smoking), which has very different and partly irreversible physical side-effects, it was interesting to see the timescale that the recovery period was being framed in. Recovery from an addiction, be it physical, habitual or mental recovery, can take a very long … Continue reading Time
The Beginning of the End (in a good way)
I am addicted to porn. They say that the hardest part of beating an addiction is admitting you have one, but for me I have always known deep-down that my porn usage is out of control, excessive and destructive, and so this for me has been the easy bit. The hard bit is actually quitting. … Continue reading The Beginning of the End (in a good way)
